With spring in full bloom and summer just around the corner, are you ready to do a little inner spring cleaning?
Warning: these tips may bring joy and peace to your beautiful soul.
With spring cleaning comes letting go of stuff like negativity, resentment, and anger. Life is much too precious to hang onto those things. It’s time to make space for what brings you love, joy, and comfort.
You get to choose how you want to feel at any time. No one else, or situation, has that control or power over you, even if it feels that way sometimes.
As Epictetus said...“it’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters”.
Today I'd like to share with you some ways you can begin to let go of things that do not serve you. Try out what resonates with you and let go of the rest.
1) Let go of resentment
Have you ever held a grudge against someone? Whatever the story behind it, is it serving you in any way?
The other person may not even know how you feel, but it really doesn't matter. In the end, hanging onto resentment only harms you.
Some ways that can help you let go are to talk it out with that person, journal about it, or chat with a trusted friend. Oftentimes, when we get it out, either verbally or in writing, it makes us feel so much better and gives us the energy we need to release it for good.
2) Ask yourself “Is this within my control?”
When you find yourself in a crappy situation ask yourself if it's within your control.
If it is, are you willing to put in the time and effort to change the situation? Or is it better for you to simply release it and move on? Make a choice and take action.
If you don’t have control over the situation, then make a conscious choice to let it be. It's not worth your time and energy to worry about situations you cannot change.
3) Crowd out instead
If letting go is difficult for you, then why not use the tactic of crowding out? Crowding out works like this – the more good stuff you add into your life, the more you will notice the other stuff slowly disappear because there just won’t be any room for it in your life.
For example, if you're having difficulty letting go of the resentment you have for someone, change your focus to what you're grateful for. Shifting your thoughts to something more positive will help you to slowly eliminate the negative thoughts.
4) “Feeling good is the primary intention”
Danielle LaPorte, the author of The Desire Map, nailed it when she said this:
"Feeling good is the primary intention."
Do what feels good. Why would you want to feel any other way?
Decide how you want to feel and align your goals and actions with those feelings.
You can’t always walk away from situations that make you sad or angry, but you can choose to react differently and stay in those situations for as little as possible. When you do have a choice, simply walk away.
Make a conscious decision to create and surround yourself with things that make you feel good.
5) Step out of the box, or better yet, burn the box
As a society, we've become conditioned into thinking a certain way or living our lives according to the “norm”. As soon as we step out of the box, we are looked upon as odd, different, or just plain crazy!
The more you let go of what does not serve you, the more you will find yourself getting away from the norms that society has pre-defined for you. The more you will be your true self and the happier you will become.
As you begin to "burn the box" and let your light shine, you may get some pushback from the people in your circle. Those people just aren’t your people! They are making a choice to be negative and conforming. Don’t let them bring you down. Surround yourself with people who will love you for who you are and cheer you on in all you do.
6) Stop the negative chatter
Ever find yourself deep in discussions with friends or colleagues that are full of negativity? Make a conscious choice to walk away from those conversations, or at the very least, don’t engage in them. These conversations serve no one and only create negative energy. If you need to, lose yourself in positive thoughts until you can walk away.
When we let go of what does not serve us, we are building respect in ourselves. This is not always easy, but know that the more you do it, the easier it becomes and the happier you'll be for it.
Something I like to do when I find myself in a negative situation where I can't walk away right away is picture myself in a protective bubble and keep as big a physical distance as I can from the situation in question.
Life is a journey and all of our experiences come together to make up who we are. I believe that it’s in our best interest to let go of things that do not make us feel good or that are out of our control.
Stay in touch with your inner self and embrace the beauty of who you are at your core. Don't be afraid to change your ways and break out of your cocoon. It's time to be your most beautiful self!
What method resonates most with you? Which will you start practicing? Let me know in the comments!
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